What to Do When Online Dating Isn’t Your Thing

Have you recently joined an online dating service? Welcome to the automated world of meeting and mating.

Or not.

Does Cupid’s arrow keep missing, even when you’re paying good money to meet people? Dating sites pride themselves on the magic of algorithms. And while some people will find true love, others lose faith, and for good reason. If you’re ready to ‘up’ your dating game, it’s time to start calling the shots.

Here is a list of ways you can meet people in your community—without having to answer an endless list of questions or look at prospects hour after hour.

3-D Options To Meet Your Future Mr. or Mrs.

• It all starts with killer kicks. Consider joining a gym. Think about it… Balancing everyday demands can be challenging, and when every hour counts, a gym membership can help in a myriad of ways: you’ll get healthy, relieve stress, find support and motivation to mark a few new goals and you’ll meet people who, like you, are interested a healthy lifestyle.

• All rise. Attend church weekly. Did you know religious attendance boosts the immune system and decreases blood pressure? Social support is never overrated, not to mention you’ll meet others in your community that share the same beliefs and behaviors as you do.

• Lose yourself in challenge. Volunteer. Helping others while helping yourself garners enormous satisfaction. And it introduces you to other passionate people who contribute to a cause for no other reason than to make a positive impact on the world.

• The whole world can be your stage. Find a book club in your area and expand on your literary tastes. There are very interesting people that join book clubs—but the idea is to not join a club full of your best friends. You’ll meet a wider range of people, and that’s precisely the goal.

• Make it yours. Your GetAssist group, that is. GetAssist is, yes, born online. But the premise behind many GetAssist communities is to join one (or several) that matches your interests—and then be open to the possibility of meeting in person to partake in said interest. You can also invite others to your communities! Think: the cute neighbor a few doors down or the new accounting person on the second floor…

So if dating sites are claiming the ability to match you with your dream person, but you’re not buying it, there are only two things you can do: give up or get real.

Open your mind—and your calendar—and try one (or all) of these suggestions. Let us know how you fair in the comments below, and if you have any suggestions on how to meet people, we’d love to hear them!